Has your relationship become a battlefield? Does your partner's sarcasm, irritability, or hostility make you wonder where the closeness and trust have gone--and how much more you can take? If anger is poisoning your relationship, this book offers a powerful antidote. Anger expert W. Robert Nay provides clear-cut, practical techniques for responding productively to inappropriate expressions of anger. Learn how anger gains a foothold in a couple's life, why your usual responses may unwittingly reward bad behavior, and how to stand up for yourself in ways that promote lasting change. Self-quizzes and step-by-step suggestions for dealing with different types of angry behavior are illustrated with true-to-life examples. Grounded in psychological science, the strategies in this book are simple yet surprisingly effective. Try them for yourself--and for the person you love.
Inhaltsverzeichnis
Introduction
I. Five Steps to Change in Your Relationship
1. Understanding and Confronting Anger: The Promise of Change
2. Recognizing How Anger Is Pulling Your Strings
3. Creating New Boundariesâ EUR"Expecting New Behavior
4. Identifying the Thinking Patterns That Keep You Stuck
5. Taking New Actions and Getting Better Outcomes
II. Overcoming the Different Faces of Anger
6. Loud, Impatient, and Over the Top: Confronting Hostility
7. When Words Do Hurt: Rejecting Sarcasm and Verbal Abuse
8. Threats and Beyond: Staying Off the Slippery Slope of Physical Abuse
9. Passive Anger: What to Do When It Seems Harmless but Feels Harmful
III. Making Boundaries Stick
10. Coping with the Expected and Preparing for the Unknown
Appendix: Daily Log
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