Jeff DeVore, certified life coach and retired chiropractor and ordained Christian minister, always wondered what was really going on. His family of origin, like all families, had its own set of quirks, and Jeff's innate curiosity often pondered, What is really going on here? Family dynamics did not encourage blunt questions from four-year-olds, and Jeff kept his questions to himself.
Fascinated by his stirrings of puberty and its exciting sexual urges, Jeff again wondered, What exactly is going on here? When he was eleven, he posted a note on the family bulletin board, "What does the man have to do with having a baby?" and his dad, a chiropractor, gave him a factual, non-shaming, Sex Ed 101 lecture, complete with textbook drawings. Jeff didn't mention his mysterious, frightening, attraction to his male classmates. He suppressed his curiosity about becoming a sex therapist (true Christian people don't need psychology, he was told), tucked his questions and desires away, and pursued classical piano. He married a woman with whom he had three children, became a chiropractor (private practice and clinical educator for twenty-nine years), and an ordained Christian minister (pastoral work for nine years). After nineteen years of marriage, he came out of the closet as a gay man, was divorced, and got on with his life.
Human behavior and its motivations and diversity of expressions continued to trigger the question, "What is really going on here?" Wanting to do something positive with his remaining years, Jeff pursued training and was qualified as a certified life coach. He assists and supports people in fulfilling their goals and personal sense of purpose.
Drawing on six decades of asking "What is really going on here?" Jeff invites you to discover your own answers to that question as it relates to your sexuality. You are the expert on your sex life, as detailed in the Introduction. As you respond to the pages, may you step into more deeply satisfying love, joy, peace, and yes, sex.
