The Skin We're in

Shepherding children through the demanding years of adolescence can be a struggle for any parent. But black parents must also help their children confront the psychological fallout of racism. With this in mind, Dr. Janie Ward, who spent fifteen years researching the moral and psychological development of African-American boys and girls, offers parents a comprehensive four-step program -- Name it, Read it, Oppose it, Replace it -- that provides strategies for healthy resistance to negative social influences and complacency in children throughout the formative years. Ward offers parents advice on such topics as:



* Helping boys deal with and control emotions like anger, frustration, and fear

* Encouraging girls to appreciate their growing bodies for more than just looks, and to develop a healthy sense of identity

* Developing skills in teens that allow them to act effectively in social, academic, and business settings

* Teaching children to resist the power of peer pressure from those in their communities who believe there is only one way to be black

* Convincing teens that it is essential to develop their spirituality and participate in a spiritual community

Contents

Introduction

PART ONE

1. Spanning Two Cultures: Coming of Age in the Era of Civil Rights

2. Parenting Black Children Today

3. The Bricks and Mortar of Building Strong Children: Crafting a Strategy of Resistance

4. Teaching Strategies for Healthy Resistance

PART TWO

5. Growing Up Female

6. Obstacles to Creating a Positive Identity

7. Dating, Family Formation, and Crossing Over

PART THREE

8. Spending and Financial Good Sense
9. Dissing, Boys, and Destroying the Ties That Bind

PART FOUR

10. School Rules

11. Spirituality: A Source of Strength and Purpose

Epilogue: A Call to Arms

Resource Guide

References and Notes

Index